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The Boys’ Club

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Please say hello to Jinx.  His name is Jinx because two days, a lot of rain, and two broken down vehicles later, we finally got him home.  I went to get him the first day and my Jeep started making a horrible noise (turned out to be nothing much, but scared me).  The next day, my mom offered to take me to get him.  Got about as far as I did the day before, BG hits the button for the window and the window falls down and won’t go back up.  We drove four hours with a garbage bag over the back door!

Jinx is my new registered Nigerian Dwarf billy-goat.  He’s still really young, but after a rather long and frustrating search during which only two of the dozen people I called returned my calls, I decided on him for several reasons.

  1. His grandsire was a national champion and his blood lines are known for milk production.
  2. The price was very right for a champion bloodline sire for my herd.
  3. He was young enough that I could raise him the way I wanted him, which is gentle and well-mannered.

Originally, I had not intended to worry about registration, but when I saw him for sale, I realized that BG is very into the animals. (She helps milk Auntie and feed the chickens every morning.)  If she wants to show in 4-H, having some sort of registered stock already in place would be ideal.  Thus, Jinx is my first registered goat.  I plan on added a couple of registered females later this year or next year, but for now I think we’re done, unless they folks come through on the offer of a free donkey.

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Posted by on March 21, 2016 in H.S.H.

 

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Neater is Nicer

Displaying image2.JPGHave you ever noticed that your mind is clearer when your house is cleaner?  I have seen a direct correlation between the clutter level to the overall emotional vibe in our house.  I’ve also seen that when my daughter’s room is a mess, she doesn’t want to play in her room.  For that reason, I cleaned everything up, got rid of a bunch of toys that she’s outgrown, and organized everything else.  She now loves playing in her room.  Imagine that!

Now keep in mind, my daughter is three.  That means that she has the attention span of a knat.  Yeah, maybe not even that good some days.  That being said, with a little help in the direction category and some repetition, she is now reliably picking up her own toys and putting them away.  She’s a little unclear on my organizational pattern, but that’s okay because I haven’t stepped on a lego in weeks!

What’s more she seems to take pride in having done it.  I base this on the fact that she dances about the house crowing “I did it!  Mommy, I did it! Didn’t I?”

The added benefit is that she sees that her whole family is happier when the house is picked up.
Many people think that three is too little to be expected to help clean, but my daughter loves to help.  By letting her help, I’m instilling work ethic and good practices (i.e. clean up after yourself).  She holds the dust pan when I sweep, she helps water the houseplants and garden, and she even helps Displaying image4.JPGempty the dishwasher.  Will she still love it when she’s 13?  Probably not, but hopefully by then it will be a habit that she takes with her, her whole life, so that she never has to live in a pig sty like seems to be the image of college dorm life.

I say this as someone who was not taught this (with any consistency) as a child.  It’s a hard habit to learn as an adult.  I want to make my daughter’s life easier in the long run, so for now I will make it hard on myself by reminding her every night before bed to pick up and put away her toys.

 
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Posted by on October 1, 2015 in Baby Genius

 

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When does a child becomes an adult?

I work with the public everyday.  One of the things I do to amuse them and myself is have a random question of the day.  The other day the random question of the day was: at what point should children start practicing to be adults?

Shocking to me the average of all the answers was at ages 16 to 18 years of age.  I’m sorry, but these answers answered so much about what is wrong with the world and why my child gets so many compliments for being smart, well-behaved, and mature.  My three-year old has been practicing to be a responsible member of society for roughly three years at this point.  Crazy as it sounds the meaning of no, how to pick up your own mess, and please/thank you are real life skills!  (I’m still working on that pick up your own mess bit myself.)

That being said, my daughter is already learning important life lessons now.  1. Mama and Daddy won’t always be there to pull your fat out of the fire.  2. No means no and usually for a darn good reason.  3. That she really is loved and that good discipline is part of real love.

 

 
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Posted by on December 4, 2014 in Baby Genius

 

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Why?! (Thanksgiving Thoughts)

Why do people spend a fortune in time, money, and tears visiting people who only make them unhappy for a holiday that is reserved for nothing more than celebrating all our blessings.  My job puts me in a unique position of being able to observe all these families that proclaim loudly how much they love each other, but the moment you add travel they are at each other’s throats.

I’ve dug into why everyone is so miserable and it usually boils down to one thing.  They are traveling to visit family that only makes them miserable because of DUTY.  What kind of duty makes us spend time with people who only make us feel bad about ourselves?

CC and I made a pact when we got together that we would not inflict stupid duties on each other like that.  Have we done it anyway? Yes.  Are we trying to give up the habit.  Yes.  Why?  Because we genuinely like our life and the direction it is headed.  Our families do not like, approve, whatever you want to call it.  The disapproval comes out as silence and avoided eye contact.  It comes out as snide comments.  It comes out as out-and-out rude comments and angry condemnation.

Why!?  Why would you inflict that on yourself?  Why would you inflict that on the spouse and children you claim to love more than anything?

But I love my family too, you say.  Do you?  Or do you feel an overwhelming need for their approval and acceptance?  They’re supposed to love and accept you, that’s what love does.  But do they?

Now for the hard question.

Are you accepting of your own children?  Are they going to be miserable coming home for the holidays because all you do is nitpick and condemn? Or are you going to change the pattern?  Are you going to say I love you and mean it?  Are they, their spouses, and their children going to be laughing their way through their holiday travels, giddy to be going HOME to you who will welcome them with open arms and loving acceptance?

Here is my gift to you:

Welcome! Come on in to our warmth and acceptance.  Spend your holidays with us.  No, you don’t have to buy us presents, but a healthy appreciation for a good joke, kettle popped popcorn, and maybe a glass of good mead would help.

 
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Posted by on December 2, 2014 in Thoughts

 

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Introducing BG!

Many will think that I’m arrogant or overly doting for labeling this category the way I did; however, I think, it is appropriate since my not quite three year old is already reading, doing math, and understanding principles of science, even if she does stick her head in her father’s snow boot.  Basically, this is a spot for us to talk about what is and is not working with our BG.

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Posted by on November 9, 2014 in Baby Genius

 

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Hello world!

For some time I have been watching the blogging phenomenon and the world in general.  I decided that it was time for me to put my views out there for public consumption.  Some of them will be hard to chew.  Most will be hard to swallow for the average raging idiot that seems to be the norm these days.  But there are a few of you out there that will probably simply goggle in stunned amazement that someone finally had the balls to say what you’ve all been thinking.  No, I will not be updating this on a regular schedule.  I’ll be updating when something in particular sticks in my craw or when I need to purge mentally in order to better understand my own thoughts and feelings.  Will you see my views change?  If ever this blog lasts that long.  Will you see me grow as a person?  If ever this blog lasts that long.  In the end…

We’ll see.

 
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Posted by on October 10, 2011 in Thoughts

 

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