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Someday has finally come!

CC and I have been saying for years that we were going to sale out and move back to the country where we belong, but we kept putting it off for this reason and that reason.  Lately, my health has become such that putting it off is no longer an option.  We have to get out of the rat race and move to a more laid back life.  We’ve had some concerns about uprooting BG, but in the end we don’t think it is really going to be a bad thing.  Let’s face it, we’ll all be much happier when she’s got more room to run around.  There is going to be some adjustment, but honestly there isn’t one of us that this move isn’t going to help.

We’ve put the house on the market and despite the fact that we’re in the process of sorting and packing, it will start being shown today.  I’m embarrassed for people to see it looking like it does, but who knew we had so much crap!  I mean, I knew we had a lot of stuff we didn’t need, but this is ridiculous.

I’ve found shoes that wouldn’t have fit BG last year and the worst part?  She never wore them!  They were in a box full of clothes that we were waiting for her to grow into.  We never even opened the box when any of it would fit her.  In our defense, she has a grandmother that sends several boxes of clothes every month.  Still no excuse.


We also have a lot of duplicates.  We have them because this one doesn’t do this very well, but it is great for this and so on.  For a laugh, I took a moment and looked at what a good one would cost that did all these things well.  I wasn’t laughing.  For the price I spent on all the cheap ones, I could have had one good one that did everything well.  I know exactly how it happens.  I see the price of the quality item and quell.  Instead, I buy the cheap one and when I get it home, I’m not happy with how it does this or that.  Then I go out and spend more money for one that says it fixing that problem.  The only problem with that is that is doesn’t do something else as well as the first one, so I wind up keeping both of them.  If I had just spent the money in the first place, I could have had one that did everything well.  I know, you know what I’m talking about.  I didn’t use an actual item in this example because there were too many of them.
The whole process would be too depressing, if it were not for the fact that getting rid of the crap is such a relief.  You literally feel like you’ve shed actual physical weight.  This feeling of relief made me realize that all those self-help and organization gurus are absolutely correct; having less is more freeing.

What this means for us moving forward boils down to several key points.

  1. Assess everything that we want to bring into the house for function and quality.
  2. Assess everything we have on a regular basis to see if it is still relevant to our lives.
  3. Change our mindset of more being better.  (Quality beats quantity.)

The thing that I’ve learned from this is that spring cleaning is not a joke.  It is important in this day and age to assess constantly.  We, as a society, live in houses that are so much bigger than what we really need that we accumulate stuff we don’t need.  Let me explain.  There are three of us and we’ve been living in (half of) a 1700 square foot house.  Half of that total is downstairs.  Do you know how much we actually used downstairs?  Two rooms; one was the laundry room and the other was filled with our books.  We’ve gotten rid of no less than three huge boxes of books just because we don’t read them, they aren’t that good, and we don’t want to move them.  That’s sad.  We’ve had those books for at least the three years we’ve lived here and we don’t even want them!

So let’s look at the math.  Assuming that the library and the laundry room take up half of the basement, that’s about 425 square feet.  Add that to the upstairs that we actually use and you come up with 1275 square feet.  That’s not that big of a house by American standards.  CC and I discussed it and what we came to realize is that if we had more land outside out house, we’d spend more time outside, which means you could probably shave even more off that number.

Smaller house – less money spent.  Less crap – less money spent.  Less money spent – less money needed.  Less money needed – more options for everything!  Think about it!  If you didn’t have to pay for all that crap that you really don’t use or want, would you still have to work as hard?  Would you be able to live on the income from the job that you’d really enjoy, but maybe doesn’t pay as much as you currently need?  Could you cut back to part-time?  How much (in money and other stuff) is your lifestyle costing you?  Do you really love it that much?

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Posted by on October 8, 2015 in A Penny Saved, Thoughts


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When does a child becomes an adult?

I work with the public everyday.  One of the things I do to amuse them and myself is have a random question of the day.  The other day the random question of the day was: at what point should children start practicing to be adults?

Shocking to me the average of all the answers was at ages 16 to 18 years of age.  I’m sorry, but these answers answered so much about what is wrong with the world and why my child gets so many compliments for being smart, well-behaved, and mature.  My three-year old has been practicing to be a responsible member of society for roughly three years at this point.  Crazy as it sounds the meaning of no, how to pick up your own mess, and please/thank you are real life skills!  (I’m still working on that pick up your own mess bit myself.)

That being said, my daughter is already learning important life lessons now.  1. Mama and Daddy won’t always be there to pull your fat out of the fire.  2. No means no and usually for a darn good reason.  3. That she really is loved and that good discipline is part of real love.


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Posted by on December 4, 2014 in Baby Genius


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Why?! (Thanksgiving Thoughts)

Why do people spend a fortune in time, money, and tears visiting people who only make them unhappy for a holiday that is reserved for nothing more than celebrating all our blessings.  My job puts me in a unique position of being able to observe all these families that proclaim loudly how much they love each other, but the moment you add travel they are at each other’s throats.

I’ve dug into why everyone is so miserable and it usually boils down to one thing.  They are traveling to visit family that only makes them miserable because of DUTY.  What kind of duty makes us spend time with people who only make us feel bad about ourselves?

CC and I made a pact when we got together that we would not inflict stupid duties on each other like that.  Have we done it anyway? Yes.  Are we trying to give up the habit.  Yes.  Why?  Because we genuinely like our life and the direction it is headed.  Our families do not like, approve, whatever you want to call it.  The disapproval comes out as silence and avoided eye contact.  It comes out as snide comments.  It comes out as out-and-out rude comments and angry condemnation.

Why!?  Why would you inflict that on yourself?  Why would you inflict that on the spouse and children you claim to love more than anything?

But I love my family too, you say.  Do you?  Or do you feel an overwhelming need for their approval and acceptance?  They’re supposed to love and accept you, that’s what love does.  But do they?

Now for the hard question.

Are you accepting of your own children?  Are they going to be miserable coming home for the holidays because all you do is nitpick and condemn? Or are you going to change the pattern?  Are you going to say I love you and mean it?  Are they, their spouses, and their children going to be laughing their way through their holiday travels, giddy to be going HOME to you who will welcome them with open arms and loving acceptance?

Here is my gift to you:

Welcome! Come on in to our warmth and acceptance.  Spend your holidays with us.  No, you don’t have to buy us presents, but a healthy appreciation for a good joke, kettle popped popcorn, and maybe a glass of good mead would help.

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Posted by on December 2, 2014 in Thoughts


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Lil’ Sprouts!

Baby, it’s cold outside!

But inside the house, my garden is growing happily in the kitchen window and in the living room window as well.  A couple of weeks ago, I filled cardboard egg crates with soil.  Then, I added seeds and a handful of hope.

Today when i checked them…


Large Leaf Basil

I have lil’ sprouts!  I told a couple of friends at work about this venture and got looks of amazement.  They all acted like I was doing something amazing, which on the one hand I am and on the other it’s the most natural thing in the world.  There are so many people who limit themselves with things like “I could never” and “I’m not that talented”.  For that reason, they become bitter and unhappy as the people around them test themselves and expand their horizons.  Don’t be one of those people; instead try something new!

Not all of my seeds have sprouted yet, but I have high hopes and if they do, I’ll add lemon balm, lemongrass, tarragon, savory, a new type of basil, and thyme to my indoor herb garden.

(On a side note, all the lil’ sprouts that I don’t keep will be going to new homes with my coworkers who are hopeful that I’ll also share my homemade red sauce recipe!)

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Posted by on November 18, 2014 in In the Garden


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Much different, much the same…

Life has changed a lot since last I posted here, but some things are still the same. I’m now a home owner. Is it my ideal place? No. Is it better than an apartment? By a long sight! Is this blog going to change? Yes and no. I’m still going to express my opinion, but I’m also going to start posting all the things that I’m doing to be happy where I’m at. So many people wait until everything is perfect to start being happy, which is why we have so many pissed off, grumpy people. Nothing is ever perfect, but life is good. With that in mind, stay tuned for lots of weird projects between me and my partner; things like making yogurt, recipes, gardening, starting fires with sticks/flint and steel/ etc., and other off the wall things. We will also be including the trials of being the parents of a baby genius. Pray for us to whatever God or Goddess you worship, we need all the help we can get!

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Posted by on November 9, 2014 in Thoughts


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Wishing away your life

“I can’t wait for Friday!” is probably the most heard phrase in the work place these days.  Doesn’t anyone recognize that they are doing nothing more than wishing their lives away.

Currently at my job we have just finished bidding for our schedules for the coming year and while I look around and see all the people that I’ll no longer see every day, all I hear is how they can’t wait to start the new schedule.  Sure, I’m excited about my new schedule.  I actually got the exact one that I wanted, why wouldn’t I be excited?  However, I’ll no longer be working with my best friend in this new city.  I’ll no longer have all the other friends I’ve made with me every day.  Granted some of them are coming with me and I’m very excited to continue working with them, but the not so great people are coming in equal measure, so why is everyone so excited to throw away the next few weeks until the new bid goes into effect?

Perhaps I have a completely different outlook on life because of the time that I’ve seen wasted by people who embraced the Shadow Lover all too soon; my sister at the young age of 24 years old.  She had her whole life before her by everyone’s standards, but that was simply an illusion.  She never saw 25.  She never saw the Saints win the Superbowl.  She never saw a woman in the presidential race.  She never held her own newborn babe in her arms.  She never worked at another crappy job.  She never again wished her life away by trying to hurry Friday to come sooner.

And she never will.

So instead of wishing my life away, I want to embrace every day as the miracle and present it is.

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Posted by on October 15, 2011 in Thoughts


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Hello world!

For some time I have been watching the blogging phenomenon and the world in general.  I decided that it was time for me to put my views out there for public consumption.  Some of them will be hard to chew.  Most will be hard to swallow for the average raging idiot that seems to be the norm these days.  But there are a few of you out there that will probably simply goggle in stunned amazement that someone finally had the balls to say what you’ve all been thinking.  No, I will not be updating this on a regular schedule.  I’ll be updating when something in particular sticks in my craw or when I need to purge mentally in order to better understand my own thoughts and feelings.  Will you see my views change?  If ever this blog lasts that long.  Will you see me grow as a person?  If ever this blog lasts that long.  In the end…

We’ll see.

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Posted by on October 10, 2011 in Thoughts


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